Breaking Up is Hard To Do

The Brill Building, 1619 Broadway, New York, New York, circa 1962. Under the glass, that one spot reveals more about the history of pop rock than almost any other place on the globe. 

Heir to the fabled Tin Pan Alley that spawned Berlin and the Gershwins, the still standing Brill Building was the home of a crew of young songwriters, singers, and at least one producer, Don Kirshner, who would change the face of popular culture. One of them was a fresh faced kid from Brooklyn with a glossy tenor, a clever harmonic sense, and tons of ambition.

Born in Brooklyn in 1939, Neil Sedaka was a gifted pianist who Arthur Rubinstein once called one of New York's best young players. Neil enrolled at the Juillard School, but the collaboration that he and neighbor Howie Greenfield had begun several years earlier would pull him in a different direction.  A slew of hit records, including the #1 worldwide smash, “Breaking Up Is Hard To Do” would emerge from this team.

"Howie, God rest his soul, was a wonderful man and a brilliant lyricist," says Sedaka of his writing partner, who died of AIDS on his 50th birthday. "In two and a half minutes he could tell an entire story.  His words almost felt like a novelette." It would take several years for the pair to pen their first hit, “Stupid Cupid,”which Connie Francis recorded in 1958-she later had a smash with “Where The Boys Are,”written by Sedaka and Greenfield for the movie of the same name, but hey-hey were only thirteen when they started writing together.

Sedaka-ok, he was precocious-also formed The Tokens in 1954. "I was sitting in math class one day at Lincoln High School and I heard a kid humming in a quiet falsetto voice next to me. His name was Jay Siegel and his voice was extraordinary. I asked him if he wanted to be in a group with me, and that's how The Tokens were born." By the time the group-led by Siegel's soaring falsetto, hit it big with “Lion Sleeps Tonight,” Sedaka had moved on.

Sedaka and Greenfield were well established hit makers by the time “Breaking Up Is Hard To Do” was released, having scored a number of Top Twenty singles, many of which were recorded by Sedaka himself. “The Diary,” “I Go Ape,” and “Oh! Carol" had catapulted the pair into the upper echelon of pop partnerships at a time when Carol King, Gerry Goffin, Barry Mann and Cynthia Weill were also making a name for themselves.

"We'd all get together on a daily basis and play our new material for each other. No one was impressed with ‘Breaking Up Is Hard To Do.’" In fact, Sedaka says he had to prod Howie Greenfield to supply lyrics to the tune. "Howie wasn't impressed either! I put it aside for several months, but I was persistent and eventually convinced him to write words for it."

Despite the lukewarm reception the song engendered from his colleagues, Sedaka had a strong feeling about it and pushed Al Nevins, his manager, producer and engineer to track "We'd all get together on a daily basis and play our new material for each other.  No one was impressed with “Breaking Up Is Hard To Do." A session was booked at RCA Victor on East 24th Street in Manhattan.  Sedaka's memories of the date are vivid.

"All we had to work with were four tracks, so we had to be very careful in the recording process. I used to love the sound Les Paul and Mary Ford got from overdubbing, and I copied it a bit-in fact, I was one of the first singers to multi-track my own harmonies."

 The self described King of the tra la la's and doo be doo's explains how he devised this bit of construction. "Every time I ran out of lyrics I'd throw in a doo be doo, and it became a trademark.  In fact, the night before we tracked “Breaking Up Is Hard To Do” I called up our arranger, Alan Lorber and told him I wanted incorporate "down doo-by doo down down" as a prominent part of the vocal arrangement. The record came to be known as the sandwich song. There's a piece of bread to begin with-the syllabification, then the meat, and finally another piece of bread.  All of my hits in the 50's and 60's used this technique."

On his way into Manhattan the following day Sedaka picked up The Cookies, the three background singers who lent their talents to the record. The Cookies, who went on to record some hits of their own, had the naughty-but not-quite-slut-pre-feminist sound and attitude that was popular at the time. Neil taught them their parts on the trip into town.

"I remember that the band thought I was nuts when we started adding background vocals throughout the entire song, prior to recording my lead vocal. But Al Nevins, whose contribution to my recordings was very important, was extremely patient with me. Al was an excellent guitarist who had had a hit in the 50's called “Twilight Time” with his group The Three Suns.  

"I was a real kvetch, and I wanted to be involved every step of the way. Because there was so much bouncing done in those days, mixing was a part of the recording process, and I made sure that the tracks went down properly, listening on small speakers to be sure that all of the vocals- the lead in particular, cut through. I wanted the high end to cut through, because my voice had a lot of treble and I was a bit of an egomaniac. I wanted to bury everyone else!"

Consisting of three tracks of Neil throughout the song, and The Cookies, who entered in the release and executed three part harmony on the fade, the completed background tracks were bounced along with the musical parts as a stereo pair, leaving two tracks for Neil's lead vocal.  In those days records were mixed and put on the air in short order.  Released in 1962, “Breaking Up Is Hard To Do” entered the charts at #62 and quickly made its way to the top of the charts. 

"Imagine!  I was just a pishera 22 year old kid from Brooklyn, and my record was on top!" True, no one ever got more mileage out of a I-VI-II-V verse progression, and the lead vocal glues a release whose harmony elides surprisingly, but what does Neil Sedaka view as the principal attraction of “Breaking Up Is Hard To Do”?  "I think the song is unusual because it coupled a sad lyric with a happy tune. My success has always had some pathos, a bit of the Chaplinesque quality about it."

Fourteen years after its original release Neil Sedaka re-recorded “Breaking Up Is Hard To Do” for Elton John's Rocket Records. Slowing down the tempo and delivering the song as a gin mill ballad, Sedaka once again topped the chart with B “Breaking Up Is Hard To Do”, making him the only artist ever to have two number one records of a song at two different tempos. 

These days, the 64 year Neil Sedaka is hard at work. He performs two weeks out of every month, has a new CD, The Show Goes On, which can be purchased through his website (www.neilsedaka.com) and has just finished work on an album of Yiddish material, which he recorded in Los Angeles with John Ross at the board. "It's time for me to go back to my roots," says Sedaka.